The Big Leap 2 book review

Do you know how you have that fantastic day, and you're just like, 'This could not be any better. My family's happy, the kids ate all their food, oh, and then immediately you're like, 'What if I lose my job next week?'  Where'd that come from? Today, we're talking all about that thought and how you can get rid of it. 

Hello, it's Kyla Denanyoh, and I am ready to discuss upper limit problems with you. That is a lesson I learned from the book "The Big Leap" by Gay Hendricks. The book's genre is nonfiction. The theme of the book is success in people and business, all right. 

So Gay Hendricks gives an example of an upper limit problem. His daughter was calling him. I think she was in college, and she was talking about graduating and everything she was doing for school. Then, immediately, he said, 'She's never going to get married; she's going to have a terrible adulthood. Oh my god, men are going to be scared by her success.' The heck? Where did that come from? 

And we all have those kinds of thoughts, those little nagging things. What are they? Why do they pop up? Gay Hendricks explains it, and he's a phenomenal teacher. He's a therapist, a psychologist, and it's one of the things he likes to call upper limit problems. It's when you're having a fantastic day, everything is going smoothly, and then, bam, something comes along to kind of level out your expectations.

 If you think about the old cartoons where you have the angel on the shoulder and the devil on the shoulder, the angel is dancing and happy, and oh my God, what a great day. The devil is like, 'Yeah, but your car is going to get repossessed.' And so, an upper limit problem occurs when you are trying to temper some of the excitement and manage your own expectations. Things are good now, but they won't always remain that way. Let me enjoy today, I don't know what tomorrow is. Upper limit problem. 

And so Gay Hendrick says, You gotta cut it. There is something you can do: you can talk to your mind. When that happens, you can simply say, 'But that didn't happen right now.' So, for example, when he thinks about his daughter graduating and him jumping into the future, he can literally say to himself, 'That is not occurring right now.' Currently, I am pleased with her success. Right now, I am enjoying this, yes. And if you keep saying things like that to yourself, that little devil on your shoulder will go away and slide away, and then you will stop trying to dampen down your big moments by bringing yourself back to reality.

You're allowed to be happy, you are allowed to revel in the success, you are allowed to be like damn, today was a great day that's allowed. You don't always have to say, 'Let me enjoy it while it lasts.' I get it, but you don't have to. And actually, I don't get it because I'm really an optimist. But you don't have to. And when you see yourself doing those things, tell yourself, there is no upper limit problem here. I have no problem with acknowledging my success, recognizing how far I've come, and appreciating the joy of this moment. Period.

So I challenge you to start talking to yourself. When you see yourself trying to curb that excitement and enthusiasm, stop it. Cut it off right then.

So, I would reread this book, of course. 

Until the next book review, Kyla